Common Ground, shared by choice.

How it works

• Each person is themselvesBoth partners use their own account and speak only for themselves. No one answers on behalf of the other.
• Permission comes firstA shared topic opens only when both of you choose to participate. Negative or deferred choices stay private. Both perspectives appear only after both people separately approve sharing.
• Private chats stay privateConnecting does not expose your conversations with JD. Only what you deliberately share in Common Ground becomes visible.

Why answering separately helps

Hard conversations often go wrong in the first few seconds, when one person reacts to the other's framing. Answering the same question independently gives each of you room to say what you actually think. When both answers appear side by side, you can see where you agree, where you differ, and what deserves a calmer conversation.

Many people find it useful to think a topic through privately with Talk to JD's relationship reflection modes before writing a shared answer.

You stay in control

Sharing is never permanent by default. You can withdraw a topic answer, and you can disconnect the connection at any time. After disconnecting, you are no longer sharing new answers with that person. Details are in privacy and data.

Know the limits

Common Ground supports communication; it does not judge who is right, predict an outcome or replace couples counselling or mediation. If you want a professional in the room, you can make a counsellor or mediator consultation enquiry.